How long will it last?

As I grow older, I see and observe a lot and the more cautious I become especially when it comes to finding a partner and marriage. Call me picky, choosy and whatever terms you have. That were some of the words people said for single lady at my age, me not excluded. I strongly believe as men, women also have the rights to choose. It really annoys me when I heard men said single women are choosy and for the actual fact they are choosy too in finding their other half.  Finding a husband is not like buying clothes in the mall. Then again, even in buying clothes, most women are very particular, I am for one. Even more so, in the finding a life partner.  Yeah, we are talking about till death do us part, not till divorce do us part. Off course, we want the best for us.

Recently, I met up with a close friend and she told me that she is going through a divorce process.  I was shocked because I did not smell any problem, all seems going very well. She kept her years of suffering to herself and pretended to be happy. I guess now she had enough of bottling up and time to move on. I did not ask of the details but knowing her for years, I know she must have strong reasons to do so. As a friend, In Shaa Allah, I will be there for her to go through this.

I also saw someone stay in marriage for wrong reasons. I would rather she get away from her mentally abused marriage but I am an outsider.

In my opinion, couple do not have to stay in marriage if they can’t see eyes to eyes in everything and always bickering with each other. Do not use children as the reason to stay in marriage because at the end of the day, the children also suffer. They will grow up and understand. But, if it can be worked out and the couple are willing to do sacrifices to make the marriage works, by all means do it.

These kind of stories has make me feel a bit scared of marriage. So many "what if" questions in my mind. What if i met with a wrong kind of guy? What if it does not last long? I will never know but I believe Allah is the best Planner...just put my trust on Him.

Once you do embark upon the separation or divorce process, it is very important to remember three key things: Be kind, be reasonable, be brief. Remember that this person will no longer be your spouse, but he or she will continue to be your co-parent, family member, and perhaps business partner in certain assets or entities.

Laura Wasser

my homecook iftar

7th Ramadhan. so far i have managed to cook for iftar except for last saturday where i was too tired to cook because i did my uber round. Yes..yes u read it correct. I am one of the uber driver. Will write about it later.

what i have been cooking so far...ermmm a simple dish for one.

thii was what i had for 1st and 2nd Ramadhan.
Ikan Kembung Singgang
Sambal Belacan & Daun Kemangi

4th & 5th Ramadan's menu

Ayam Masak Kurma

Stir Fry Kailan

Yesterday and Today Iftar's menu

Masak Lemak Cili Padi Udang dgn Nenas

Tempe Goreng with Sambal Bilis Hijau & Daun Kemangi

Stir Fry Cabbage and Carrot

Alhamdulillah, this year i did not spend much at Pasar Ramadhan...homecook food still the best. May i will uphold my plan to cook and not going to Pasar Ramadhan. Things are getting expensive. Hope i can continue doing this after Ramadhan. In shaa Allah.

'Sahur'less

Last two year, i was having my iftar and terawih at a mosque in USJ 9 and last year Ramadhan i  was with Cekya as i stayed at her place after the passing of her mom. This Ramadhan back to home sweet home and am happy that the surau at the apartment had its first Terawih after almost 3 years of me staying there. Alhamdulillah. I guess now most of the units has been occupied. The turn up were quite good...this is the chance for us to get to know each other. I hope the committee will organise lots activities for us Muslim. Masjid hopping for terawih also in the list.

I saw people updating what thay had for sahur this morning. Me? i had nothing for sahur. I set the handphone alarm at 5 am but i woke up to my 6.30am alarm. There goes my sahur.

Was planning to have milk and dates for sahur as suggested by Syed Azmi in his fb. Hope for better luck tomorrow.

Was walking to work ans i suddenly thinking of cooking 'ikan masak pindang' and sambal belacan for iftar. A simple meal for one.

never walk alone

Choices we make create our life journey,

be it breathtakingly wonderful or godawful.

Either way, we are not on our own

His guidance and protection will be with us.

Undying support and love from families and friends.

Stranger who become savior

You'll never travel alone..

finding me

lately i have been asking myself what i should do with myself. i feel my job did not satisfy me the way i wanted, my life is somewhat not in place, spiritually imbalance.  There's a lot that i wanted to do until i lost sight of what i really want. Am still searching. I think i am having midlife crisis...mid life crisis of identity

Suffice saying, that i am not satisfied with myself.
I am lost.
At times i want to cry.
Other times, i wish i can walk away from everything.

dire needs of soul searching
in finding me...
help

has any one experience the same?

Andrea Hirata Dan Pasar Kue Jakarta

Last week i went to Jakarta with my partner to get some books ordered by our BukumurahBookbargain's clients. My partner, Liena suggested that we go to Gramedia Matraman as it is the largest bookstore in Indonesia. At the same time, we were told by a fellow traveller, Azzah that Andrea Hirata is launching his new book title "Ayah" there.

We did not expected that we will meet Andrea Hirata in person as our initial plan was to get the book orders and furthernore, we reached there after the event has ended. Then Azzah came and met us, telling Andrea Hirata is at the cafe downstair. Wow, this our chance to meet the renowned Indonesian author who are famous with his Laskar Pelangi novel. A novel that turned into movie and made Belitung Island popular. We took a photo with him and requested him to signed copies of his new books that we bought.

This time around we managed to make our trip to Pasar Kue Subuh at Blok M. It open from 4am to 8am. We went on Saturday but it was quite late. They were about to close. We decided to go there the next day before going back to KL.

So about 4 am, we took a cab to Blok M. The sellers are still rearranging the 'kuih'. All sort of kuih and they were neatly done. I bought some to bring back with the hope that it will still good to eat when i reached KL. Alhamdulillah, they were in good condition till midnight. it is to my liking, not too sweet and just nice. Next time, i need to bring plastic container for the 'kuih'. it will be easier to carry compared with the box.

let me indulge you with the photos