Friend still?

" Are you ok?" That is a question being asked by a friend. Basically, he was wondering about my situation after the breaking up. I am happy to say that life's goes on and i am doing great. My ex and me, we are still being friends and still talk to each other some time, perhaps as often as before. For me, if you can't stay as couples, you might as well be friends. Guess, there is nothing wrong with that. I know some of my friends were against this idea by saying your ex can't be your friend. I don't know, perhaps it's the case in some situations but not for me we ended our relationship in a good way. So, there's no reason to add another name to my enemy's list.

Work - the love and hate relationship

This is one of those moment that i feel like screaming my heart out..arrrrrgggggghhhhh... As much i enjoy doing my work, i really hate producing reports. Such a tedious process and cause me to abandon my daily work and by the time i finish, i am stuck with all the unattended job that need to be done. The most irritating part, after so much effort being put onto it, the bosses only look at the final figures. Reporting to two bosses, does not make it more easier and i am short-handed. The company did not want to recruit newcomer and ask us to utilise the existing resources. I have been working hard and I want my bonus ( just to let you know, the company is making a lot of money last year.. a profit of USD 15 Million ).

Bell's Palsy

On the 2nd day of our trip in Langkawi, Adik (my housemate) complained that the right side of her face felt a bit numb and sensed something wrong with her right eye. My best friend shared with us her experience on the related matter. The only different is that, hers was a bit painful and her smile became asymmetrical. Her face was back to normal in few days time after a doctor gave her an injection and some medication. I told Adik it probably was nothing, maybe because of too much laugh and it will be okay. I was praying for that. It turned out that she was still having the numb for the next 2 days.

On the 4th day, i noticed that her smile became asymmetrical and she unable to close her right eye completely. That night, in my fear of the condition becoming worse, i had to force her to see a doctor as she insisted to go the very next day. True enough, she is having a condition called Bell's Palsy. That night was the first time i heard of the term and i assume many of us have not heard of it as well. As instructed, we went to HUKM for further check-up. Luckily the doctor said it was nothing serious and gave her some medication. She, however, have to undergo facial physiotherapy and nerves test.

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What is Bell's Patsy

It is a neurological disorder caused by damage to the seventh cranial nerve, also known as the facial nerve, which results in weakness or paralysis on one side of the face. The paralysis causes distortion of facial features and interferes with normal functions, such as closing the eye and eating.

Signs and Symptoms
The most common symptoms are facial weakness or paralysis, a dry eye or mouth, and problems tasting. The severity of symptoms depends on the extent of facial nerve damage and varies from mild weakness to complete paralysis. Bell’s palsy usually affects both the upper and lower parts on one side of the face. Both sides of the face are affected in less than 1% of cases.
Symptoms usually come on suddenly, often following recovery from a recent upper respiratory infection or other virus. Several hours before the onset of facial weakness, many people experience pain behind the ear or in the back of the head. In addition to paralysis, other symptoms include:
Dizziness
Drooling
Dry mouth
Facial twitching
Hypersensitivity to sound
Inability to blink or close the eye, tearing, and dry eyes
Impaired sense of taste
Impaired speaking


Bell's palsy is self-limiting. Symptoms do not spread beyond the face and do not worsen once they "peak." Between 60% and 80% of patients experience complete recovery within a short time, whether or not they receive treatment. Others are left with varying degrees of facial disfigurement, paralysis, or muscle spasms.
Recovery time varies from a few days to a few months, depending on the amount of damage to the facial nerve. Approximately 7% of patients experience a recurrence.

Source : Neurology Channel
For more information go to Bell's Palsy

So far, yet still very far

Friend, buddy, pal, mate...whatever you call it, is, i would say important in our lives. Someone i know talked about his closest friends and the things they did together. It somehow made me missed my friends, one in Bahrain and the other one in Manchester. Quite a spontaneous person they are...told me about going abroad and make a living. The next thing you know they are there, having the good time of their lives.


p/s:-
Oat and Ian, miss you both of and hope you will have a good time in Egpyt. Looking forward to the day when you are back for good.


That's What Friends Are For - Dionne Warwick, Gladys Knight Stevie Wonder

and I never thought I'd feel this way
And as far as I'm concerned
I'm glad I got the chance to say
That I do believe I love you

And if I should ever go away
Well then close your eyes and try
To feel the way we do today
And then if you can remember

Keep smiling, keep shining
Knowing you can always count on me, for sure
That's what friends are for
For good times and bad times
I'll be on your side forever more
That's what friends are for

Well you came in loving me
And now there's so much more I see
And so by the way I thank you

Oh and then for the times when we're apart
Well then close your eyes and know
The words are coming from my heart
And then if you can remember

Timber..Timber...Timberland

I would really love to get this footwear from Timberland but it's too damn expensive...another RM 1 to make it RM 400.



Maybe i should settle down with the one at Hush Puppies which will only cost me RM 169..

Life insurance....not insterested

It's been quite a while since i last blogged. Last week, out of the blue, i got a telephone call from someone who i don't even expected to get a ring from. The call was from an ex-colleague of mine who rarely talked or even smile at me..perhaps i was an alien to her eyes.


She started the conversation by asking how was i doing, so on and so forth. Then finally the 2 millions question came out of her mouth, "do you have a life insurance policy?".It was a bit annoying, you rarely talked to me or at least smile when we bumped into each other, suddenly want to set an appointment with me to talk about life insurance. HELLO!!!! I don't even buy a life policy from my close friend, what made you think that i will buy from you. It is a sure no no. On this i am quote what Sunflower have said "whatever you are selling, am not interested."

All work and no play, makes Jill a dull girl

It is way passed my beddy-byes hours ago and i still can't get myself to sleep. Been changing from one position to another, yet my eyes are wide open and i got only 4 hours left before i start my new day at work. Work, work, work..is it all that i can think off? Sadly yes, at the moment and lately, i seems can't get myself to focus on my work...that is bad. Perhaps i need a break from work for a while, wouldn't want to be a dull person. Thinking back, i hardly take any day off from work for a vacation. The only days off from work is basically for my exams or medical leaves. When it comes to weekend, i prefer staying home..just sit back and relax. Oh no!!! i am dull person? Something got to be done about it. First, i need to plan a vacation for myself. Maybe it will give me time to indulge myself with leisure activities and get my mind off from thinking about work. As for now, better hit the sack and get myself some sleep.

Pimple, pimple pls go away, don't come another day..

Now i can imagine what it's like when they said about pimple and it's unpleasant ache. Why so...because at this moment i got pimple in one of my nostrils. Gosh, i hate this dull ache..this is one of those very rare situation for me. Please just go away...

Festive Mood

It's the time of the year again..
As we grow older..festive season does not seems to differ that much from the normal days except for all the foods and cookies. Maybe for the fact, when we were kids all the things are being taken care of unlike now all are from our own pocket. We no longer care that much for new clothings as we are not going to compare it as we would when we are small. Mind the mood, most important, it's time to get together...newcomer to the family is being introduced and others tightening the bond among each other.

Suddenly Single

If you loves somebody set them free,
If he/she comes back to you, he/she is yours,
But he/she doesn't, then it was never meant to be.

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Sometimes i wonder if i am i trying too hard or am i hoping too much...but what the heck, if you believe in it, there is nothing wrong in trying or hoping. At least some effort is being put in it...well, eventho, the outcome is not what i would hope it to be. My relationship ended yesterday. Reason given to me was that his work is to be-all and end-all. I accepted that but it was his remarks thereafter that buttoned up my lips and hurt me even more.

In this sheer of sadness, i refrained myself from trickling a tear and kept saying to myself that things are going to be alrite...in hoping that i would be strong. I don't know, i might work or might not. They say for bad things to happen, there will be even more good things coming our way..guess i have to stick on that quote into my head using a super duper glue.

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it's been quite a while since i last updated my blog. Last Thursday and Friday i am down with fever and alsa asyik sakit kepala for past few days. Sempat juga drive ke Shah Alam on Friday with that condition. Rather be with at my aunt's place daripada duduk rumah alone. Sampai saja sana, took my medication and terus tidur for like 6 hours. Semua orang pun risau sebab i tak turun-turun bawah. After that rasa kebah sikit demam tu. On Saturday and Sunday, i spent quarter day painting my new house at Bukit Jelutong...memang tiring sungguh. Kena juga buat sebab if possible i want to move in by middle of February. Habis almost RM 400 for paint alone tapi tak apa since i am going to live there. Ada like 5 different colour rumah

Living room - Lilac

Dining  - Beige

My room - Blue ( off course )

Room 2 - Light Pink

Room 3 - Light Green

This Friday, my boss akan berangkat ke Mekah untuk menunaikan haji. Moga selamat pergi and balik. Before he left sempatlah juga buat my appraisal. Overall, alhamdulillah, the comment amat memberangsangkan. He only appraised me for 60% and another 40% will be appraised by another boss. Hopefully dapat promotion this year and good bonus despite the loss incurred by Selendang Ayu, Proton and Tsunami.

Bosannya nak balik rumah..semenjak raya selalu sorang-sorang kat rumah sebab adik yg duduk sekali tu tak balik lagi ke KL and my other housemate pukul 11.00 kadang-kadang baru balik. Tak sabar nak tunggu minggu depan..aku akan ke KK from 20/01/05 to 29/01/05. Bye...

 

Stepping out of the comfort zone

Fear is the main source of superstition, and one of the main sources of cruelty. To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom.
Bertrand Russell

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We often hear people talk about their fear...fear of failure, rejection,heights and the lists go on and on. It is not an uncommon thing or word to each and everyone of us. The only difference is the degree of it and how it affect our lives. Personally I think, there is nothing wrong for being afraid, just not let it rules us or it make us become emotionally handicapped. Fear isn't always a negative thing, it can be good thing provided if we know just how to handle it.

People keep saying that the flowers in the highlands are more beautiful and yet we still prefer the ones in our garden. The reality is, we rather stay our own comfort zone, pretending everything is okay whilst the actual fact it doesn't. Why did we or why did i? Is it because we feel safe and secure? The answers lies within ourselves, one thing for sure, what out there is beyond our knowledge and we don't want to take any risk.

I used to have fear of others not being able to accept me as I am and I will try to do everything to pleased people around me for that. I blamed my past experience for the fear, not realizing that I am the one having inferiority complex. I am lucky someone in my life made me realised that, made me see things in a different angles. I moved away from the person I used to be to what i am now. I am not saying that i am totally a new person, just that i now seeing things positively. I feel good about myself now. i don't regret stepping out of the comfort zone. If people can't accept me for me for what i am, i don't lose anything. I might meet others who would. There is a blessing is disguise for everything that happened, might it good or bad.

Cheerio.

Poetry & Me

Recalling the good old days...i would not have thought that i am going to enjoy poetry as i am today. The truth is i don't have any passion for it. I still remember the time when i had to recite a poetry in front the whole class during my primary school. At that moment i really wish that the clock would tick more faster. The words that are still fresh in my mind "Augustus was a chubby lad; Fat, ruddy cheeks Augustus had;"
Years passed by, still my interest isn't there, until Kak Sunida, a friend i knew in my tuition class wrote a nice poem in my book as a rememberance of our friendship...i still keep the book eventhough 13 years gone by. I then began to collect the Malaysian Post, a forthnightly magazine, where public can send it their poems. In the magazine, i came across a poet by the name of Puteri Nelana, who spurred my interest in poetry even more with her writings. How i wish i can be just like her, able to have way with words in expressing thoughts and transformed it to a beautiful poems. For this passion i have in poetry...i have to thanks the both of you.
Kak Sunida, wherever you are, thank you for the poem and wish you all the happiness there is.
Puteri Nelana, whoever you might be, i hope you will keep on writing and inspire others the way you did to me.

I leave you all with the poem that starts it all...

Have i cast a shadow upon your life,
Have i wrongly represented your thoughts,
Have i injected the devilish idea about men,
Have i, most of all, killed the principles
that you so dearly hold.

All i can tell you is, I've never intended to let things be that way,
I am just an ordinary person
A fragile being, an innocent creature,
Who will walk this way but once,
Just the same as you are.

I am, like all humans,
An imperfect creation,
I live through trials and errors,
I was faced with tempations,'
I've stood thick and cold,
through frustration, suffering and agony,
And lastly, i choose to ignore.

The wish of my heart,
Asking for your forgiveness, if i've been wrong
This is just a path of life,
And i'll tell you, the difficulty in
life...is the choice.

This is one of my favourite poem...wish to share with all of u. It's like love at the first sight...i fell in love with it the first time i read it.

If
by Rudyard Kipling

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too:
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream---and not make dreams your master;
If you can think---and not make thoughts your aim,
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same:.
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build'em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings,
And never breathe a word about your loss:
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings---nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much:
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And---which is more---you'll be a Man, my son!

Life is...

Life is...
the way you see things,
Life is..
the way you act,
Life is..
You.